Length of contributions LO12227

Virginia I. Shafer (vshafer@azstarnet.com)
Mon, 27 Jan 1997 11:52:55 -0700 (MST)

Replying to LO12197 --

Winfried writes:

>There's always a 'somebody' that asks the question. That someboy is the
>owner of the question and should be at present through out the dialogue,
>because she/he has an interest in the question and therefor has taken
>commitment and responsabillity for the thread. Others can 'hang on' to that

>The dialogue is finished when she/he has had satisfactional answers and
>notifies the others involved.

This is an excellent point. I was frustrated by the Ohmae's KSF thread
for the reason the original questioner apparently left the conversation
and wasn't available for follow up questions. I even sent a cc: to his
mailbox and had no response. Yet the conversation took off largely so we
could "show off" our opinions on the notions of key success factors. I
still grew in understanding as a result, but what value did the questioner
receive? Was he satisfied?


>Some guidelines:
>*Stop arguing.

I'm put off by replies that begin, "I disagree" without apparent attempts
to clarify if the writer meant what the responder understood. I like
these suggestions...

>*Instead try to read/listen carefully to hear on what _facts_ , his/her
>opinions and thoughts are based, AND what implicite vision/value you assume
>is hidden underneath. Check this out by asking some questions to get these
>hidden values "on the table". Many misunderstandings can be traced back to
>the fact that we assume that the dialogue-partner understands the words as
>we mean them. Nothing is less true! Every concept can summon totally
>different associations in somebody else's mind.

Here, here. Let's continue to improve our conversations.


Ginger Shafer The Leadership Dimension "Bringing Leadership to Life" (c) vshafer@azstarnet.com

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