> It is risky and sometimes inappropriate - the times when I feel
> uncomfortable is when I know there is a part of me who wants to do it out
> of a desire to punish... because I am hurting and moved to hurt back...
> those are the times I write and delete and may even end up not posting at
> all - it helps me to vent and think it through - it is highly unlikey to
> be constructive for me to send it ... sometimes I find I can listen
> better for having done it though......
Dear Julie and other organlearners,
It was exactly the same with me for many years. But eventually I dicovered
two things which made it stop.
First I discovered that I got spiritualy hurt when somebody else
jeopardised my creativity. (See my recollections on Depression -- an
obstacle to learning.)
Then I discovered that by improving on my creativity, I got less hurt. (I
even managed to overcome my depression.)
I now speak to myself in the same manner. It goes immensely faster. Maybe
you should try it. Much of what you see on this forum, is a result of
these inner dialogues. In some circles they say I am certifiable. My
family also say it, but to show their love and encouragement.
Best wishes
--At de Lange Gold Fields Computer Centre for Education University of Pretoria Pretoria, South Africa email: amdelange@gold.up.ac.za
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