In LO10697, Ben Compton says:
"How do people progress to the point that they're willing to change,
without changing? The only explanation I have is that it's a matter of
passion and spirtuality (more on spirituality a little later in the
message). How passionate am I about achieving such and such result in my
life?
"Which raises another question in my mind: Why are some people incredibly
passionate, while others seem to be almost bereft of passion? Are they
afraid? What are they afraid of?"
I had been working on developing my emotional maturity for a very long
time and found that my intellect, my impatience and knowledge of what it
should be at the end of development blocks my own development. In other
words, my images and expectations of what it will be "when I become mature
emotionally and reach my goal" block me from just being and feeling what I
am experiencing right now. I can tell you lot of theories and models of
what to do but practicing them is entirely another matter. I find that my
own passion and knowledge becomes an issue. I have to unlearn (there is
that word again!) and let go of my own attachment to reaching the goal.
How do I do that? I am finding that if I can look at another person who is
emotionally mature and where I would like to be and allow myself to be led
by them (even though I might 'think' that they are going in the wrong
path!) and focus on my feelings, I have some insights and movement. It is
difficult to do (because of my images and models) but when I do follow my
role model out of my own choice, I see many possibilities that I could not
see from my theories alone.
Then the step that again becomes difficult is to practice what I have
learned from the modeling experience. Sometimes, it is easy for me to see
possibilities and keep exploring one after the other and not take any
action on any one of them. Of course, only when I take action and follow
through one of those possibilities that I unleash my own creativity in the
new emotional arena.
Only then, I can step back and reflect and discover what has been
accomplished in that journey and that reignites my passion.
Of course, being the intellectual that I am, I created a model for
accomplishment: Passion -->Possibility-->Creativity-->Discovery and back
to passion again. It is what I call accomplishment cycle.
Am I stuck again? (grin). It is time to go find my wife and see what she
is doing about taking care of my children at lunch time on Saturday
while I am busily typing away on this computer. Bye!
--Prasad Kaipa, Ph. D. (408) 866-8511 Mithya Institute for Learning & (408) 866-8926 (Fax) Knowledge Architecture 4832 Pinemont Drive Prasad@Mithya.com Campbell, CA 95008-5714 Pkaipa@AOL.com
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