Lessons on Learning LO10270

Fred Kompass (fkompass@voicenet.com)
Mon, 30 Sep 1996 14:25:48 -0400 (EDT)

Replying to LO10246 --

Replying to 10246

Jeff wrote:

>Second, that the situation I
>described is one kind of situation in the change process. If you try to
>interpret a client's _conscious_ stance as resistance you'll lose the
>working alliance because of the "external" frame you've imposed.

It's more than that from my perspective, Jeff. You also give up the locus
of control. If the other guy is resisting, what can you do, except to try
to make him stop resisting. Whis is just as likely to make him resist all
the more. I too have come from the therapy world and I've tossed out the
idea of resistance. Rather than say the other guy is resisting my efforts
to change him or her, it would be just as accurate to say that I am
resisting the client's efforts to stay the same. If I go out in my front
yard and try to push over the big oak tree and it doesn't fall, I would
look pretty stupid to say the tree is resisting my efforts to push it
over. In that example it makes more sense to say I am resisting the
tree's determination to stand there. But the important fact of the
matter, to me at least, is that if I stop seeing resistance I am led back
to look at what I am doing that isn't working and change that. And that
is the only place I have control - I can control what I am doing. Another
way to put this is that if I stop seeing resistance and look at what I am
doing and how I may change that, I suddenly have more options.

Fred Kompass
Renqaissance Cponsulting Group, Inc.
fkompass@voicenet.comAt 05:56 PM 9/29/96 -0400, you wrote:


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