Subject: Good speech
Date: 2/5/97 6:07 PM
Guy Kawasaki was one of the founders of Apple Computer who helped create
the Mac.
Palo Alto High School Baccalaureate Speech 6/11/95 "Hindsight" by Guy
Kawasaki
Speaking to you today marks a milestone in my life. I am 40 years old. 22
years ago, when I was in your seat, I never, ever thought I would be 40
years old.
The implications of being your speaker frightens me. For one thing, when a
40 year old geezer spoke at my baccalaureate ceremony, he was about the
last person I'd believe. I have no intention of giving you the boring
speech that you are dreading. This speech will be short, sweet, and not
boring.
I am going to talk about hindsights today. Hindsights that I've
accumulated in the 20 years from where you are to where I am. Don't
blindly believe me. Don't take what I say as "truth." Just listen. Perhaps
my experience can help you out a tiny bit.
I will present them ala David Letterman. Yes, 40-year old people can still
stay up past 11.
#10: Live off your parents as long as possible.
When I spoke at this ceremony two years ago, this was the most popular
hindsight - except from the point of view of the parents. Thus, I knew I
was on the right track.
I was a diligent Oriental in high school and college. I took college-level
classes and earned college-level credits. I rushed through college in 3
1/2 years. I never traveled or took time off because I thought it wouldn't
prepare me for work and it would delay my graduation. Frankly, I blew it.
You are going to work the rest of your lives, so don't be in a rush to
start. Stretch out your college education. Now is the time to suck life
into your lungs-before you have a mortgage, kids, and car payments. Take
whole semester off to travel overseas. Take jobs and internships that pay
less money or no money. Investigate your passions on your parent's nickel.
Or dime. Or quarter. Or dollar. Your goal should be to extend college to
at least six years.
Delay, as long as possible, the inevitable entry into the workplace and a
lifetime of servitude to bozos who know less than you do, but who make
more money. Also, you shouldn't deprive your parents of the pleasure of
supporting you.
#9: Pursue joy, not happiness.
This is probably the hardest lesson of all to learn. It probably seems to
you that the goal in life is to be "happy." Oh, you maybe have to
sacrifice and study and work hard, but, by and large, happiness should be
predictable.
Nice house. Nice car. Nice material things. Take my word for it, happiness
is temporary and fleeting. Joy, by contrast, is unpredictable. It comes
from pursuing interests and passions that do not obviously result in
happiness.
Pursuing joy, not happiness will translate into one thing over the next
few years for you: Study what you love. This may also not be popular with
parents. When I went to college, I was "marketing driven." It's also an
Oriental thing.
I looked at what fields had the greatest job opportunities and prepared
myself for them. This was brain dead. There are so many ways to make a
living in the world, it doesn't matter that you've taken all the "right"
courses. I don't think one person on the original Macintosh team had a
classic "computer science" degree.
You parents have a responsibility in this area. Don't force your kids to
follow in your footsteps or to live your dreams. My father was a senator
in Hawaii. His dream was to be a lawyer, but he only had a high school
education. He wanted me to be a lawyer.
For him, I went to law school. For me, I quit after two weeks. I view this
a terrific validation of my inherent intelligence.
#8: Challenge the known and embrace the unknown.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is to accept the known
and resist the unknown. You should, in fact, do exactly the opposite:
challenge the known and embrace the unknown.
Let me tell you a short story about ice. In the late 1800s there was a
thriving ice industry in the Northeast. Companies would cut blocks of ice
from frozen lakes and ponds and sell them around the world. The largest
single shipment was 200 tons that was shipped to India. 100 tons got there
unmelted, but this was enough to make a profit. These ice harvesters,
however, were put out of business by companies that invented mechanical
icemakers. It was no longer necessary to cut and ship ice because
companies could make it in any city during any season.
These icemakers, however, were put out of business by refrigerator
companies. If it was convenient to make ice at a manufacturing plant,
imagine how much better it was to make ice and create cold storage in
everyone's home.
You would think that the ice harvesters would see the advantages of ice
making and adopt this technology. However, all they could think about was
the known: better saws, better storage, better transportation. Then you
would think that the icemakers would see the advantages of refrigerators
and adopt this technology. The truth is that the ice harvesters couldn't
embrace the unknown and jump their curve to the next curve.
Challenge the known and embrace the unknown, or you'll be like the ice
harvester and icemakers.
#7: Learn to speak a foreign language, play a musical instrument, and
play non-contact sports.
Learn a foreign language. I studied Latin in high school because I thought
it would help me increase my vocabulary. It did, but trust me when I tell
you it's very difficult to have a conversation in Latin today other than
at the Vatican. And despite all my efforts, the Pope has yet to call for
my advice. Learn to play a musical instrument. My only connection to
music today is that I was named after Guy Lombardo. Trust me: it's better
than being named after Guy's brother, Carmen. Playing a musical instrument
could be with me now and stay with me forever. Instead, I have to buy CDs
at Tower.
I played football. I loved football. Football is macho. I was a middle
linebacker -- arguably, one of the most macho positions in a macho game.
But you should also learn to play a non-contact sport like basketball or
tennis. That is, a sport you can play when you're over the hill. It will
be as difficult when you're 40 to get twenty two guys together in a
stadium to play football as it is to have a conversation in Latin, but all
the people who wore cute, white tennis outfits can still play tennis. And
all the macho football players are sitting around watching television and
drinking beer.
#6: Continue to learn.
Learning is a process not an event. I thought learning would be over when
I got my degree. It's not true. You should never stop learning. Indeed, it
gets easier to learn once you're out of school because it's easier to see
the relevance of why you need to learn. You're learning in a structured,
dedicated environment right now. On your parent's nickel. But don't
confuse school and learning. You can go to school and not learn a thing.
You can also learn a tremendous amount without school.
#5: Learn to like yourself or change yourself until you can like
yourself. I know a forty year old woman who was a drug addict. She is a
mother of three. She traced the start of her drug addiction to smoking
dope in high school. I'm not going to lecture you about not taking drugs.
Hey, I smoked dope in high school. Unlike Bill Clinton, I inhaled. Also
unlike Bill Clinton, I exhaled.
This woman told me that she started taking drugs because she hated herself
when she was sober. She did not like drugs so much as much as she hated
herself. Drugs were not the cause though she thought they were the
solution.
She turned her life around only after she realized that she was in a
downward spiral. Fix your problem. Fix your life. Then you won't need to
take drugs. Drugs are neither the solution nor the problem.
Frankly, smoking, drugs, alcohol -- and using an IBM PC -- are signs of
stupidity. End of discussion.
#4: Don't get married too soon.
I got married when I was 32. That's about the right age. Until you're
about that age, you may not know who you are. You also may not know who
you're marrying.
I don't know one person who got married too late. I know many people who
got married too young. If you do decide to get married, just keep in mind
that you need to accept the person for what he or she is right now.
#3: Play to win and win to play.
Playing to win is one of the finest things you can do. It enables you to
fulfill your potential. It enables you to improve the world and,
conveniently, develop high expectations for everyone else too.
And what if you lose? Just make sure you lose while trying something
grand. Avinash Dixit, an economics professor at Princeton, and Barry
Nalebuff, an economics and management professor at the Yale School of
Organization and Management, say it this way: "If you are going to fail,
you might as well fail at a difficult task. Failure causes others to
downgrade their expectations of you in the future. The seriousness of this
problem depends on what you attempt."
In its purest form, winning becomes a means, not an end, to improve
yourself and your competition. Winning is also a means to play again. The
unexamined life may not be worth living, but the unlived life is not worth
examining. The rewards of winning -- money, power, satisfaction, and
self-confidence -- should not be squandered.
Thus, in addition to playing to win, you have a second, more important
obligation: To compete again to the depth and breadth and height that your
soul can reach. Ultimately, your greatest competition is yourself.
#2: Obey the absolutes.
Playing to win, however, does not mean playing dirty. As you grow older
and older, you will find that things change from absolute to relative.
When you were very young, it was absolutely wrong to lie, cheat, or steal.
As you get older, and particularly when you enter the workforce, you will
be tempted by the "system" to think in relative terms. "I made more
money." "I have a nicer car." "I went on a better vacation." Worse, "I
didn't cheat as much on my taxes as my partner." "I just have a few
drinks. I don't take cocaine." "I don't pad my expense reports as much as
others."
This is completely wrong. Preserve and obey the absolutes as much as you
can. If you never lie, cheat, or steal, you will never have to remember
who you lied to, how you cheated, and what you stole. There absolutely are
absolute rights and wrongs.
#1: Enjoy your family and friends before they are gone. This is the most
important hindsight. It doesn't need much explanation. I'll just repeat
it: Enjoy your family and friends before they are gone.
Nothing-not money, power, or fame-can replace your family and friends or
bring them back once they are gone. Our greatest joy has been our baby,
and I predict that children will bring you the greatest joy in your lives
-- especially if they graduate from college in four years. And now, I'm
going to give you one extra hindsight because I've probably cost your
parents thousands of dollars today. It's something that I hate to admit
to.
By and large, the older you get, the more you're going to realize that
your parents were right. More and more - until finally, you become your
parents. I know you're all saying, "Yeah, right." Mark my words.
Remember these ten things: if just one of them helps you helps just one of
you, this speech will have been a success:
#10: Live off your parents as long as possible.
#9: Pursue joy, not happiness.
#8: Challenge the known and embrace the unknown.
#7: Learn to speak a foreign language, play a musical instrument,
and play non-contact sports.
#6: Continue to learn.
#5: Learn to like yourself or change yourself until you can like
yourself.
#4: Don't get married too soon.
#3: Play to win and win to play.
#2: Obey the absolutes.
#1: Enjoy your family and friends before they are gone.
Congratulations on your graduation. Thank you very much.
--JOE_PODOLSKY@HP-PaloAlto-om4.om.hp.com
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