Sherri Malouf wrote -
> Joan stated:
>
> >Change is something which little children love until they learn from their
> >parents and society that they should be feeling bad.
>
> Joan -- I am interested in this comment. My son is two years old and has
> had to adapt to a lot of changes. Many times it is not ok -- he prefers
> predictability. For example, the transition to daycare from being with me
> (he came with me to work until he was 18 mos) was very difficult for him.
> We blew it initially and then got smart and worked out a way to manage the
> transition. Now I do believe that young children can absorb beliefs from
> their parents but I do not believe this was the case. He was experiencing
> anger at being abandoned with strangers and grief over the loss of being
> with his Mom. When I go on trips, which I have been doing since he was 8
> months old, he gets angry at the loss.
> So had I taught him by the time he was 8 months old to resist change? I
> somehow doubt it. I think it is more an issue human evolution -- not
> physical but psychological evolution. At some point we need to give up
> fear as our mo for dealing with our relationships with everything -
> spouses, children, bosses, organizations, change...
Don't expect an infant who knows who he must depend upon for security to
give up that security easily. This is not a matter of change, but one of
personal security. No one can accept a change which has an adverse effect
on their security. Change to a baby is a new thing, not removal of
security. The same is true for adults - attack their security and
acceptance of change turns into rejection. There are limits to everything.
Regards, Joan
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