Learning to Dialogue LO10225

Julie Beedon (julie@vistabee.win-uk.net)
Sat, 28 Sep 1996 17:55:20

Replying to LO10211 --

John makes some useful points in his comments on the nature of the
dialogue here (and the tendency to advocacy) ....

>On the other hand, we often hear comments like "what did you mean when you
>said" or "help me here". Those statements could be counted (literally) as
>inquiry, though they don't "resound" to me as the kind of inquiry that
>I've heard about.

In the fieldbook we have some wonderful protocols for inquiry ....

What leads you to conclude that....

What data do you have for that....

What causes you to say that...

What is the significance of.....

How does this ... relate to....

Where does your reasoning go next....

How would your idea/proposal affect....

Am I correct in assuming ....

Do we need others for dialogue on this list or should we be
thinking about using these more?????

I find more often than not that postings are in line with my
thinking (or I assume they are) and I add other points (more
advocacy) .. then people will take up where I have assumed too
much... might be better if I stopped before doing this and did
some inquiry to check out if I understand them correctly..??

> That inquiry responds to an incomplete or incompletely
>expressed idea with respect, appreciation, and the request to hear more.
>It seems to work in an instance when the fault of understanding is not the
>hearer's, yet it doesn't fault the speaker. It responds to a view that is
>not its own with allowance for changing one's own mind if the other view
>is better. It allows the other view, in many cases, to abide and continue
>without disproof. (Sounds like the Apostle Paul's description of love :)
>One action of learning new information through inquiry could be saying,
>"Oh, I see what You mean!" And it seems like we (the group) don't often go
>through whatever is necessary (in conversation) to get to that
>That is why "inquiry" has been highlighted in what I've said about

Many Thanks John ... helps me to see which aspects of inquiry are
missing ....

Julie Beedon
VISTA Consulting


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