Learning and Conversing LO9151

Rachel Silber (rachel@ontos.com)
Thu, 15 Aug 1996 13:15:16 -0400 (EDT)

Replying to LO9071 --

Robert Bacal said:

> It might, then again it might not. People are limited in the information
> they can track...adding verbatim recording potentially overloads the
> cognitive system.

That's potentially true. I haven't tried this technique a lot of times,
but I have tried it a few times, particularly when trying to unravel
communication problems with my kids -- now, how, exactly did we manage to
push each other's buttons so well? I found that planning in advance to
write down afterwards improves concentration in the event enough to
compensate for any overload.

> I would NEVER use this technique since it focuses on the words not the
> meaning, and the meaning is not the words (oops, I'm in fortune cookie
> mode....again).

How else can other people know what you meant without the words you used?
Yes, of course there is body language, etc., but we have to assume that
the words we're saying are conveying the meaning, and then, I think, we
have to check that we used the right words to convey the meaning we
intended.

My friends and I used to say to each other, " I know you think you
understood what you thought I meant, but you didn't understand that what
you thought I said is not what I meant." :-).

--

Rachel Silber rachel@ontos.com "In theory, practice and theory are the same. But in practice, they're different."

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