(I'm new to this list -- an intro will follow ... sometime)
I think this is very important. This has been presented to me in
several different ways.
One friend of mine says that when he starts to label something as
"resistance", it's a clue to him that he probably doesn't understand the
other person's position or situation. Then it's time for him to get more
information. In article LO573, Tobin Quereau has some nice questions to
ask.
At a workshop, someone told me that she thought people didn't resist
change, but resisted when other people attempted to change them. Which
reminds me of Jerry Weinberg's "Buffalo Bridle": You can make buffalo go
anywhere, just so long as they want to go there.
Some of what I've learned from books like "The Magic of Conflict", and
from talking to Aikido people, and also from practicing Tai Chi I think
has helped me in dealing with resistance. "Resistance" can be looked at as
a source of energy. Rather than push back, it's more effective to find the
postition from which you can add your energy to their energy, allowing
them to move themselves in a direction you'd like.
- Brian
(Brian.Batke@cle.ab.com)
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Host's Note: Welcome Brian. Personal introductions are welcome and not
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